She was diagnosed with Breast-Cancer
It was without any doubt the most frightening moment in my life. While I was a few hundred miles away in a North Carolina hotel room, my wife Ann received a call from her gynecologist who broke her the news that she had breast cancer.
I will never forget that moment. The worst thing was, that I wasn't with her just killed me. With a lot of good luck and great flexibility from my airline, I was able to make it back home the same night. That's when our "first 48 hours" countdown started.
The first two days after a breast cancer diagnosis seem to be particularly brutal. You know that your wife has cancer, but that's it. You don't know anything about whether or not the cancer has spread already or anything else. And you still hope that all this was just a mistake by the lab, that they probably mixed up the biopsy samples, misinterpreted some 'false' breast cancer symptoms, or something like that - of course, it was irrational and the odds were against us and we knew that.
Within these 48 hours we also informed our family members, or at least most of them. And of course, we googled everything possible related to breast cancer, especially the mortality rates, chances for cure, etc.. And that's a good thing. But it's also a bad thing at the same time, because it's likely that you will aim your research into a wrong direction. Plus you may conceive a lot of information that is completely irrelevant to your situation and therefore you may get unnecessarily scared of a lot of things you read about on the Internet. Unless you already did so, I recommend you to read my wife's and my breast-cancer story on this website, where I explain in detail what we did and how we drove ourselves nuts over things we didn't understand.
I know it's hard, believe me; I do know exactly what are you going through, because I've been through it. Look, at this point, all the advice I would try to give you would probably be in vain. You're angry, scared, frustrated, empty, but then your head just wants to explode...everything at the same time.
Well, all I can do is to send me an email and I will try to answer your questions. And hopefully the other sections on this website will provide you with more information and give you some tips as to what you can do at this point.
